Have you ever felt guilty about wanting more money?
People keep saying, “Money is the root of all evil” like it’s the eleventh commandment. Don’t you just shudder at the thought of going straight to hell for thinking about wanting money? We’ve been indoctrinated that wanting more of it is a sin and that it’s unforgivable.
I think it’s because of the cultural beliefs we were born into.
I grew up in a very conservative and religious family. My parents sent me to a Catholic high-school where they taught us that wanting lots of money is bad. For the most part of my youth, people left and right were constantly drilling that into my head.
As I got older and got exposed to the harsh realities of life, I slowly came to a different realization.
My family owned a bakery. Through the years, I’ve seen it flourish, go bankrupt and then operate again.
During the low times, I saw how it affected our family – my parents’ relationship, my mom’s health, and our studies. Back then, getting a college degree was important, so I had to apply for multiple scholarships to get into college.
When our business boomed again, our life changed. I no longer had to work part-time at McDonald’s because my parents didn’t have to worry about my dormitory fees anymore.
When I got sick, they had money to bring me to the doctor.
Same thing happened when I had my own family. Six years ago, we didn’t have enough money for my son’s much-needed open-heart surgery. We desperately had to ask for help to give him what he needed to survive.
Worrying over finances when I had bigger things to think about (like if my son will survive that surgery at 6 weeks old) was simply too much to bear. My thoughts were all about raising the funds we needed to get him to the hospital in time.
From then on, I vowed never to be in that situation again.
That’s why today, I’m passionately advocating for the importance of having money. And I want to help change your mindset about it.
Money is NOT the root of all evil.
You need money to:
- pay your debts, bills, amortization and put food on the table
- live a comfortable life with your loved ones
- do what you want, travel the world, and enjoy life
- help other people
- support the causes you believe in, and make an impact in the world
This is exactly why we’re here. And why we’re all pushing our limits to achieve our goals.
It’s not about the money. It’s about what the money makes possible.
From the income I got from high-paying clients, we got to pay for our car and moved out of a shared flat (my entire family lived in a master’s bedroom for 4 years)!
Life has improved so much since our living situation changed. Having my own studio has helped me work better and get more new clients and more opportunities to grow the business.
More importantly, when you have lots of money, you can help those in need and make an impact on the world.
But get this – you don’t need to be a philanthropist to help. You already make ripples of change just by growing your business.
Because we could finally afford to pay for a carer for my son, I had more time to hold hand-lettering workshops and deliver more value to my audience.
This has not only helped me build my authority in my niche but also has given me the chance to help more people do what they love and get paid for it.
I help people make a difference in their lives.
Same goes with you, the more money you make, the better your life will be – more clients, customers, and colleagues will trust you because you’re earning well (which translates to delivering better, quality work).
Remember, you can’t give what you don’t have. You’ve got to help yourself first. If you want to help people, you’ve got to have the means to do so.
How will you be able to create a program or a product if you’re worried about how to pay the bills?
Imagine all the good things you can do for yourself and for the people around you if you had a lot of money! It’s not selfish at all!
Now, I’d love to hear from you. Do you ever feel guilty about making more money? What or who influenced you to feel that way? Let me know in the comments below.
Hey Mye,
Just wanted to say that I’m very happy to see that this mentality shift is happening around me.
I think the moment you start seeing money as a source of positive energy that you can channel to causes where you would put your heart in, is life changing.
I want money, I love money. Money is good. Money do good things. Money gives you food, shelter, dresses you and your loved ones. Money cures diseases, money provides education. Money has to be loved and appreciated.
I think of it as a river. You need it to flow. Water needs to flow. If you circulate it in the right direction, it will always be there for you.
I started this side hustle (teaching lettering) so I could contribute. I have already donated to causes that I felt I needed to, and I can’t be more grateful to money for letting me do so.
So Amen to everything you said in here 🙂
Happy to know abundance is winning.
That is so true, Vanessa! Money allows us to do so much more than just having nice things…
As the oldest child of an alcoholic, womanizing father & a severely mentally broken & controled mother, we all but starved 2 death for the 6 years of my life. My mother couldn’t watch her girls die of illness or starvation & so she finally stood up 2 him & he walked out.
She worked in a factory & made descent money but raising 3 children isn’t easy & I had seen her duct tape her shoes together so she could use the money she’d saved to buy her self shoes to buy shoes for o e of us girls instead. Then she finally did start to get ahead in life & save some money in the bank but her 2nd husband stole it all & then he got the 2nd house, that she had bought, in the divorce.
After that, she bought whatever she wanted or whatever she thought her girls wanted. And so she spent the remainder of her buying things but she completely paid off her house & car but her bank account was always just above $50.00.
I grew up understanding poverty, sacrifice & hardships.
My husband & I sacrificed a lot so that I could stay home & raise our 4 sons. And now because of health issues i can’t have a “GRUNT WORK” job (all I’ve ever known is factory or child/elder care or service work. I can’t do these jobs anymore. So now we are more or less raising 2 of our grandsons & we still have nothing. I WANT BETTER FOR MY FAMILY!
The problem is that when I say we have nothing, I mean, we live hand 2 mouth, paycheck 2 paycheck, constantly wondering how we’ll pay the Electric/gas bill ormortgagee payment or car ins or medical bills, etc…
I want better but I have no more eye 2 get better. Money may or may not be the root of all evil but it takes money 2 make money & you can’t get blood from a stone.
So now that u know my sob story, please believe me when I say I do what better but I can’t afford to get what I need to do & get better.